Teenage concerns

At some point, most teenagers have concerns that make it hard for them to cope with other areas of their life. You can help them to tackle these concerns by offering them support as soon as you spot a problem - it's always better to get involved earlier rather than later. Don't be afraid to set boundaries, but remember that negotiated boundaries have the greatest chance of success.

Seeking information and advice can help you talk more easily to your teenager. Many schools and colleges now run parent/carer information classes covering some of the issues you might face, such as a breakdown in communication or mood swings.

Health, well-being and weight

Getting plenty of exercise and eating well is important for your teenager's overall well-being. Encourage your teenager to eat breakfast, and keep plenty of fresh fruit and healthy snacks. If you are concerned about your teenager's weight or eating habits, you can get advice from your doctor.

Bullying

Indications that your teenager is being bullied can include: physical signs such as unexplained injuries or torn clothing; emotional and behavioural signs such as mood swings, withdrawing from friendship groups, avoiding school, being easily upset or uncharacteristically aggressive. If you notice any of these, try to open up a discussion. If this is difficult, it may be worth talking about your concerns with school.

Drugs, alcohol and smoking

Teenagers may turn to drugs, alcohol and smoking for a number of reasons. Try to be alert to the warning signs, such as unexplained weight loss, a change in friends or declining performance at school. Talk openly to your teenager about how drugs, alcohol and tobacco can affect their lives, as it is important for them to understand the risks involved in these activities.

Safe use of the internet

The internet is a fantastic resource, but has potential dangers too. It is important to make your teenager aware of these. Tell them not to give out personal details and if they wish to subscribe to a site, use a family e-mail address to receive mail. Consider using internet filtering software and check what child protection services your Internet Service Provider (ISP) offers.

Sex and relationships

Sex becomes legal in England, Scotland and Wales at 16, and in Northern Ireland at 17. Your teenager may start to form close relationships before this. If you are able to discuss relationships with your teenager in an open and supportive way, it is more likely that they will be able to make responsible decisions about this aspect of their lives.

Pregnancy

Should your teenager discover she is pregnant, her Connexions personal adviser can help her to find services and sources of support. Alternatively, talk to your GP about organisations that can offer help. Connexions personal advisers can also offer help and advice to teenage fathers.

Brushes with the law

Most teenagers do not break the law, but for those that do, it could be a sign that there are problems elsewhere in their lives. Your teenager's Connexions personal adviser can help you and your teenager to deal with the consequences of offending as well as put you in touch with agencies who might help with the underlying cause.

Use the links below for the contact details of organisations that offer information and one-to-one support.

Help with anything that may concern your teenager

Help with health and well-being

Help with staying safe

Sex and relationships

Brushes with the law